"Get over yourself. You’re bad enough for there to be a cross and for there to be a Hell, but Christ is gracious enough to make you holy, spotless, and blameless, despite the fact that we know we’re not."
Matt Chandler, The Explicit Gospel (via tunemyheartosingthygrace)
My love language is food.
Based upon my experience, I would argue that male sexual sin isn’t generally framed as a purity violation. The loss of male virginity still gets the performance failure metaphor. If a boy losses his virginity it’s a mistake, a stumbling. Consequently, this is something he can easily rehabilitate. He’s not damaged goods. He can simply resolve to do better going forward. How is this so easy for him? Because his sexuality is being regulated by a performance metaphor.
By contrast, and this is the heart of of the matter, the loss of female virginity is almost exclusively regulated by the purity metaphor. For females the loss of virginity is a bit more than a performance failure. It’s a loss of purity that, because of the way purity works, is catastrophic and beyond rehabilitation. And because of this she’s got no way to move forward, metaphorically speaking. The game’s over. And thus she reaches the only conclusion the purity metaphor makes available to her: She’s damaged goods. And all the emotions related to that judgment of contamination rush forward as she internalizes all the shame, disgust, revulsion and nausea.
This is the psychology that makes the Christian purity culture so toxic."
I completely agree with insightful
ladies. be careful when u wear spaghetti straps. it might distract the boys. they’ll start thinking of spaghetti. they will get hungry. they will stop at nothing to get their spaghetti.
As you might remember, my weight dropped down somewhat dangerously back in February. Well, after months of trying to be regular about eating, not to mention actually being able to afford food/being in an environment where someone isn’t literally dying every week/sleeping proper hours/other such good things, I’ve finally gotten to a solid 21.6 on the bmi, but the numbers on the scale were worrying me (because as much as I laugh at my mom for worrying that I might have an ED, it does scare me sometimes). On top of that, I confess that I can be pretty neurotic about how I look in the mirror - I go between feeling way too skinny and just thinking “gross” whenever I look at myself.
But lately I’ve been looking the mirror and kinda liking what I’ve been seeing. I’ve been logging some serious miles in the last few weeks as training for a ten-miler coming up in July, running up to an hour every day, plus hours of heavy yardwork, but maintaining a healthy diet all the while. I allowed myself to stop worrying, stop feeling guilty, stop hating myself for the food choices.
And I’m gaining weight, and I feel good about that. I feel good about gaining weight. I know that anyone (who doesn’t have some kind of Body Dysmorphic Disorder) would look at me and consider me on the skinny-side of healthy. So, yeah, I’m glad to finally be getting to a place where I’m happy and healthier.
“what a turkish delight, you are.”
things i would say if i had a turkish friend.
If I had a friend named Hillary, I would tell her that she’s Hillary-e-ous.
If you want tears, give this a listen.
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